Comments on Living Life in the Superlative: Romance

Yeah, I don't really understand the whole &quo...

2010-06-16T19:18:38.759-05:00

Yeah, I don't really understand the whole "I want to get married" or even "I don't want to get married" thing. For me, I was ready to marry Ryan. I didn't go in wanting to get married, I just went in because i love spending time with him and wanted to learn more from and about him. And here I am with a ring on my finger. It's pretty awesome. But I also know marriage is not about romance--though it's important part of it--but that's not what it's about. And when you go into marriage just looking for romance for the rest of your life and none of the hard work, then you're doomed.

Anywho, I'm rambling now. I enjoy your insights.

I was in a wedding Saturday. It was interesting to...

2010-06-07T19:34:50.633-05:00

I was in a wedding Saturday. It was interesting to see your post after being busy with it all weekend. The best man in his toast mentioned when the groom first told him that he could not live without the bride. I'm very happy that they got married. Such a great fit, and they are both so thrilled. It's a very God-centered relationship too.

I was very happy and independent before meeting Joel. I prayed to not be single forever, but I was content and had let go of my anxiety about previous relationships and loneliness. I went to China to celebrate myself and that I could be perfectly happy spending two weeks almost entirely by myself without help in a foreign land with very limited understanding of many things. I consider it a great blessing and beautiful irony that Joel was the first new person I met upon returning to the US. I got several emails from my pastor while I was gone telling me I should meet this new grad student. I'm very happy that I did. :) So in response to your post, while I know that I physically can get along without Joel, it would not be complete. I cried just thinking about it. I pray that the rapture would come before we have to face permanent separation. Anything else would be devastatingly difficult. My best friend, the one I trust completely, my dearest companion, and my partner for all fun things in life. Life is changed completely with him. Anyway, I thought it was worthwhile to give such a long comment to give you a forewarning that I think you should be adding another couple to your list in the next year or so.

I'm hoping my wedding was one of the "six...

2010-06-07T08:48:06.344-05:00

I'm hoping my wedding was one of the "six".
Because I definitely can't not love him forever.
(And it's OK if you never do get married, but just so you know, I'm secretly rooting for an awesome sister in law ;)

I like this post. You are wise to decide to be s...

2010-06-06T20:46:13.305-05:00

I like this post.

You are wise to decide to be single until you just can't be. (Until you meet someone you can NOT live without.... instead of just marrying someone you CAN live with.)

I decided what you decided when I was about 24. It was a relief. Freeing. .... and then I met Sam... and I knew he was who I couldn't live without - and he felt the same. And that was freeing.

(I was absolutely thrilled that you came to the wedding yesterday. I know it was no small trip.)

You are so right about the pressure in this culture. Good grief.